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Some BDSM Fun in Same-Sex Relationships – Yes, Porn Helps

It is pure fiction that BDSM is reserved only for male/female relationships and that such practices are considered to be degrading and harmful to women. This can’t be farther from the actual truth. The sub/dom relationship is about the personal desires of a single individual, not about their gender. 

And the BDSM practices are not only alive within same-sex dating pool they are thriving. If you check out some of the gay Snapchat usernames or the lesbian Snapchat usernames you will see that the content they share often involves this particular kink, it is simply because it is great fun and a positive way for us to explore our sexuality.

 Now, it would be interesting to take a look at how BDSM has found its way to same-sex relationships and to debunk some of the myths surrounding this particular sex play.

The roles remain the same

Whether it’s a gay or lesbian or straight couple there us no difference when it comes to role division in BDSM. Wanting to be dominated or to dominate is only related to your desires and kinks, and finding someone who is not only accepting of them but also interest in fulfilling them. 

This is one of the reasons this particular practice has found its place in the LGBTQ community. It is based on our psychological needs and finding pleasure through sex play. It is very important not to deem BDSM practices as abusive, it is never a question of abusing someone or being abused, there is no room for such behavior in this type of sex practices. The goal is relinquishing control or, in the case of a dom, having complete control over the situation. But it is always interesting to see that the submission has nothing to do with strength. For example, Bound Gods by Kink.com is the premier gay bondage porn site online. There you get to see gay muscled men dominating or being tied up and dominated. Some of the prominent names being - Colby Jansen, Jessie Colter and Nathan Hope.

The main idea is providing high levels of pleasure to your partner by carefully playing out the agreed-upon scenes and at the same time monitoring your partner’s reactions and adjusting accordingly. You need to be present and understanding at all times and remember that you are both equals in this relationship regardless of the roles you take. 

The community within the community

BDSM loving LGBTQ community can be regarded as a community within a community. The benefit of entering any type of BDSM relationship is that is based on open and honest conversation before anything else. Regular sex plays don’t require a lot of communication, and in most cases, people tend to be focused on their own pleasure and not that of their partner. This often leads to frustration and dissatisfaction with both the same sex and straight couples. 

On the other hand, to apply BDSM practices, you need to be open and honest with your partner. You need to go over your likes and dislikes as well as to set boundaries regarding what you are comfortable with. There needs to be a safe word in place, and you need to discuss possible scenarios that you would like to play out. This is why BDSM can help strengthen a relationship. So, if you take a closer look you might see that the BDSM community within the LGBTQ community has thrived with the BDSM motto being SSC: Safe, Sane, and Consensual.

A bit of kink never hurt anyone

For years, even by being a member of the LGBTQ community, you were considered sexually kinky. Although every relationship within this community was no kinkier than those had by the straight couples. There was even more love and understanding.

 But as the stigma is being lifted regarding a same-sex relationship, people are freer and freer to pursue their ways of obtaining sexual pleasure regardless of the level of kinkiness. Knowing what you like and asking your partner to provide should be a norm within any relationship. 

We all deserve to be satisfied in bed, and the only way to obtain this is to be open and honest about our needs, and if it involves impact play within the BDSM or some additional role-playing then so be it. Being kinky is not a crime, it just means that you are more aware of your sexuality and are not afraid to put it out here. And if nothing else, you are in luck because there is no less judgmental community than the LGBTQ one. 

There is no lack of great on-screen action when it comes to BDSM scenes in porn, whether it is gay or lesbian. If you have seen Kendall Woods in action you know what we mean. And if you haven’t, we suggest it be your next inspiration. This lady along with Aubrey Star is everyone’s fantasy. 

As you can see BDSM is alive and well within the LGBTQ community, and it is a common practice in same-sex relationships. The D/s relationship is not solely connected to the male/female interaction. It is about two people having a great relationship that is based on mutual respect and love for a certain form of sex play. And opting to be in such a relationship within a community that is already very open and inclusive can only make things better.

 So, finally, it is essential not to limit certain sex practices to only one group, but rather to be open to trying them out if they can help you and your partner improve on your sex life and make it far more fun and interesting. You can always turn to adult Snapchat for additional inspiration and ideas as what is shown in content there is far more natural and achievable for everyday same-sex couples. Plus, a lot of your favorite BDSM pornstars are more than happy to share some very inspiring tips and tricks that can make your sex life that much more interesting.